Dynamic Differences

ASSIGNMENT
	Think of how opposite personalities come together and complement each other.
	Recognize the obvious differences between you and others.
	Consider how opposite personalities can bring out the best and worst part of you.
	Begin thinking about the so-called "weaknesses" of others as "uniquenesses."

Opposites seem to attract each other. Somehow we are attracted to people who have strengths that are our weaknesses. "C"s will meet an exciting, positive, upbeat type person, like an "I".  "C"s will wish they were more like him or her, while the "I" is impressed with the "C"'s logical thinking and organized behavior.

"D"s are often attracted to "C"s because of "C"s cautious and calculating demeanor, while "C"s are impressed with "D"s' risk-taking, driving, decisive and dreaming behavior. "I"s are also attracted to "S"s because of their quiet, sweet, soft demeanor; while "S"s admire "I"s' ability to influence and impress others.

What happens when opposites attract can be explained by the dynamics of differences. Our differences draw us together. Ironically, those same differences can drive us apart. The characteristics of the person with whom we fell in love often become the very traits we end-up resenting.

While opposites often attract, we must keep in mind that most people are blends or composites of DISC.  Few people are predominate "D"s, "I"s, "S"s, or "C"s. Most teens are a combination of several of types.

EXAMPLES

There are "D/I" behavior types, who are active in their tasks and people skills. There are "S/C" types, who are passive, while both people and task oriented. "D/C"s are pure task-oriented, while being active and passive. "I/S"s on the other hand, are basically people-oriented while active and passive.

The "I/C" is both active and passive while people and task-oriented at the same time. The same goes for the "D/S." But while the "I/C" loves to inspire and correct, the "D/S" enjoys dominating and serving others. The "D/S” type may sound like a contradiction in terms, but this unique and often confusing behavior is normal.

The most obvious conflicts occur when a pure "D/C" task-oriented individual is attracted to a pure "I/S" people-oriented person. These people were probably initially  impressed with the others' strengths which were their own weaknesses. The "D/C" lacks people skills while the "I/S" needs to become more task-oriented and organized. The exciting news is each needs the other, but difficulty comes when one stops looking at the other's strengths and starts focusing instead on the other's weaknesses.

The "D/C" focuses on logical thinking and being industrious, while the "I/S" desires to build relationships and deepen communication. You can see how these two blends of behavior can clash.

The following are three of the most common opposite types. See if any of these is like your Behavioral Blend/s and another person's type to improve your relationship.

"D/I" Relating To "S/C" "D/I"s are outgoing, while "S/C"s are passive and reserved. "D/I"s are more positive than "S/C"s. "S/C"s are more cautious than "D/I"s. Both should learn from the other. Be committed!

"I/S" Relating To "D/C" "I/S"s are people, while "D/C"s are task-oriented. "I/S"s are more high-touch than "D/C"s. "D/C"s are more high-tech than "I/S"s. Both should learn from the other. Be committed!

"D" Relating To "I/S/C" "D"s are more dominant and demanding. "I/S/C"s resist aggression, but respect it. They prefer friendly, secure and cautious behavior. Both should learn from the other. Be committed.