Step-Parenting Challenges

Step-parenting can be the hardest kind of parenting.  It's difficult enough raising your own kids.  Obviously, relating to children with totally different personalities than the new step-parent's, creates unique challenges. Remarriage with children involved is a whole new ball game.  Parents and children must relate to new ways of thinking, feeling and acting.  The rules and boundaries seem to change over-night.

Some people often seek mates completely opposite of their former mates.  For example, an "S" divorced from a "D" may want an "S" or "C" type.  The "S" doesn't want another domineering and demanding mate. Others are attracted to the exact same type as their former mates.  For example, an "I" divorced from a "C" because of a constant cautious and critical attitude, may marry another "C" just like the former mate.  The "I" subconsciously is attracted to competent and conscientious types.  
  
The solution is not finding another mate totally different or exactly like your former mate.  Remember, commitment is more important than compatibility.  It's imperative that step-parents understand personality types — their's, as well as their step-children's.  By guarding strengths and avoiding weaknesses, you can relate more effectively.

The following are specific ways D,I,S or C type step-parents can relate to D,I,S or C type step-children.  Above all, rely on the Holy Spirit to control your personality.  Allow God to do something uniquely wonderful for the step-child through you.

Sample of some of the information you will learn:

"C" Type Step-Parent Dealing With—

"D" Step-Child:
Don't push child to do everything perfect. Get to the point when explaining things. Don't be rigid. Look for the good in what is done.

"I" Step-Child:
Go out of your way to be positive and encouraging. Overlook much of child's disorganization. Praise child. Don't be sarcastic. Be cheerful and excited.

"S" Step-Child:
Be kind and sweet. Don't try to correct everything. The child wants to please, but needs to trust you first. Build loving relationship.

"C" Step-Child:
Child is just like you and will judge everything you do.  Show child how competent, yet caring you can be. Don't over-analyze.  Stimulate child's thinking.