Parenting Challenges

Parents have specific styles raising their children. Children also have their own personalities that may conflict with their parent's. Families often struggle when parents and children clash.  Identifying predictable parenting styles can improve family living.

No parenting style is better than the other. The wise parent learns to respond according to each child's personality type. Unfortunately, many parents don't know their parenting style. They may also not know each child's specific personality type. 

Most families struggle because of personality differences. Familiarity often breeds contempt. In other words, the closer you get, the easier it is to conflict. The things we often love about someone, we sometimes despise. Understanding "parenting styles" will help you deal with the differences between you and your child.  Be sure to identify both personalities.

Children sometimes have totally different personalities from their parents. An aggressive parent may have a passive child. Don't think the child will be just like the parent. Learn to deal with children according to their specific personalities. As an adult, it is your responsibility to adapt and control the conflict. Don't expect the child to.

The following are proven and practical ways to deal with different type of children. Focus on your D, S, C type personality, along with that of the child's or I. Be sure to consider your Behavioral Blend and other predominant temperament tendencies ("highs").

Sample of some of the information you will learn:

"I" Type Parenting Style With "D" Child:
Be serious. Don't be silly or informal. The child is not interested in funny stories. Don't waste time. Demonstrate your plan to solve the problem.

"I" Child:
Be a good listener. Don't talk much. Complement child. Emphasize the good and positive. Smile and agree, as much as possible.

"S" Child:
Be sensitive. Let the child share his or her feelings. Don't interrupt. Let the child finish completely. Stay calm and reinforce your sensitivity.

"C" Child:
Be factual. Don't try to "snow" the child. Ask for suggestions. Be open and respectful. Give details concerning problems. Be precise and methodical.